ZetaTalk: Aftertime
Note: written Apr 15, 2002
The undecided have motive in life according to immediate pleasures, in the main. When they see suffering, before them, they feel compassion and may be
motivated to give of their own good, or assist, giving of their time, but this motivation vaporizes as soon as the painful situation is out of sight. They quickly react to
a threat of having their lifestyle diminished, or expectations of them increased such that life becomes more work and less play. Thus, to motivate a spiritually
undecided individual is, in the main, to present them with suffering, without a buffer, or to present them with a better life should they do this or that.
- In a survival group, where undecideds are mixed in with strongly Service-to-Others individuals, the undecided should not be allowed to avoid the sick room
or pathetic crying of hungry infants. Force them into this presence, as choices will be made. They will either rise to the occasion and give of their time, being
the better for it overall, or get hostile. If the individual gets hostile, they are making an orientation decision, that their comfort is more important than assisting
the suffering of others. In this, the group can decide if they wish to have this member as a continuing drain, given the obvious orientation and mindset. If they
grow toward empthy and assisting others in pain and need, then they may in fact make a rapid transit to Service-to-Others orientation, a bonus.
- In focusing on the future, making a clear distinction on how the life of the individual, as well as the group, will be better should this or that task be done,
works well with the undecided. This is not unlike a parent motivating an immature child. They get desert if they do the dishes, get to watch TV if they finish
their homework, or get to go to the park if they clean their room. In the case of a post pole shift survival group, the carrot can be more variety in the diet,
less hunger, warmer or dryer quarters, or a chance to sight see a bit and travel.
